Finding Happiness

From November 20, 2006

What does it take to be truly happy? Whether we realize it or not, we are constantly searching for happiness. Some people say that genuine happiness stems from birth—remnants of memories generated through warmth and satisfaction. Perhaps the roots of happiness can also be found in the womb where we lived in a constant state of satiation: warm, free from harm, and constantly nourished.

But I have always believed that true happiness is intrinsic-- it is part of our soul. We are born with an inclination to do good, to please others, and to experience joy. Jack H. Goaslind said “Our yearnings for happiness were implanted in our hearts by Deity. They represent a kind of homesickness, for we have a residual memory of our premortal existence.” Joseph Smith, Jr. said that “Happiness is the object and design of our existence; and will be the end thereof, if we pursue the path that leads to it.”

If this is true, then happiness is more than just a state of mind; it is our God-given right. Why is it that for some people, genuine happiness seems to elude them? Why is it that some people spend a great deal of money on recreation and objects designed to bring pleasure, and still do not find what makes them truly happy? Goaslind tells us that the source of genuine happiness is actually within each of us, but that there are two things that directly affect our happiness: adversity and sin.

As for Adversity: This is usually difficult to deal with because it is so often a random event and we seldom have anything to do with its occurrence. I believe it is all in how we deal with adversity—look at it as a time to choose. Goaslind says that “if we are to have happiness in our hearts, we must learn how to preserve it” even in the midst of trouble and trial. We can choose how we deal with adversity and subsequently control our attitude. Do not get caught up in your own miseries—instead, be a light to those around you; allow adversity to make your faith stronger—do not let it shake you from your foundation.

And now for Sin: How can we be truly happy if we are doing things we know we should not be doing? Goaslind says that “sin is sin because it destroys instead of saves; it tears down instead of builds, it causes despair instead of hope.” As long as we are contrary to the nature of God, we are “contrary to the nature of happiness”. By seeking for happiness in doing that which we should not, true happiness will elude us. We have the ultimate power to change how we feel by correcting the things that are wrong, and not giving up, no matter how hard it may seem. This victory over self will bring true and lasting happiness.

My Encarta Dictionary defines “happiness” as feelings of pleasure, contentment, or joy; feeling satisfaction in something that is right or has been done right. It is also defined as a willingness to do something. This holiday season I hope we will try to develop greater feelings of genuine happiness by bringing joy to others and dealing with personal issues that require resolution.